Tonight I thought about my 8 year old, and replaced my attitude of
"he is 8 years old, he needs to..."
with "he is just 8 years old, I need to..."
I am blessed to know that if I don't get the red flag, my husband goes before the Lord each morning before work, and prays over us and his sons...usually, we see a huge step forward in the one we struggle with most during these times.
So now, I know it is my oldest. He needs his mom and dad to cover him in prayer, because he is just 8 years old. He says things that remind me of me when I was a teenager, and that scares me most...
he thinks we favor his siblings over him...
or he gets the raw end of the deal.I know it is completely normal, but I don't want it to grow into a habitual attitude on his end, and an ignored misconception on my end. I want my little boy to know that we think he is just as valuable as every member in this family, and that, although the expectations for him are going to be inevitably different, we will invest in him as much as his siblings...no more, no less.
Hearts at Home Conference in Normal, Illinois (HIGHLY recommend this), and listened to a speaker talk on sibling rivalry. I gleaned great information from this, and realize how much power I have as a parent to curb it. It is a constant struggle to maintain the balance, especially with 3, almost 4 kids in the mix...but as the God-designed mother for these kids, I am going to do my best to give them a fighting chance!
So tonight, I sat down and wrote my son a letter- a love letter, I guess. I gave him words of affirmation and reminded him that he is special. I am so excited for him to get it, because he loves receiving mail...he sends it to his friends and cousins, then waits anxiously for a reply. I hope my letter to him will be met with the same enthusiasm, but mostly, I hope he will feel firmly rooted in love and know what a great 8 year old he really is!