Monday, February 13, 2012

Lazy Mom?

 She sits there, sipping on coffee while her kids tear up the construction paper and scribble with markers. She cringes at their decision to place THAT there, but doesn't lift a finger.

Coffee is good.

When kids are over for a playdate, she is relieved that the kids can entertain themselves while she reads a book or does laundry.

When they argue, she gets a little annoyed and says, "Work it out yourselves."

Some may think this mom sits on the couch, eats bon bons, watches Oprah, and expects her kids to raise themselves...LAZY!

I beg to differ.

This is the mom that sits with her children, and no matter how much she would like to "just do it for them", she doesn't.

She let's them use their own creativity, she is excited to see the pride in their eyes after accomplishing a project all by themselves.

When kids are over for a playdate, she is relieved that 1.) her kids are learning social skills 2.) They are learning how to entertain themselves and compromise with others 3.) Knows she needs a little break, and uses her time to fill herself up for later when the kids really need her.

When the kids argue, she knows she has instilled in her children the moral values and proper tools to work out arguments, and she understands that it is time for them to practice those things.

This is not a lazy mom. 

 No matter how many other moms look down on this mom for not being a Superstar crafter, or a Top-notch entertainer, could she be the one looking out most for her children's future?

It's okay for the kids to be bored every once in a while, that's when creative juices have room to flow! And it is definitely okay to let the kids (when they are old enough) work it out themselves, after all they can't go to college holding mom's hand!

5 comments:

  1. "It's okay for the kids to be bored every once in a while, that's when creative juices have room to flow!"

    Love this line, Angie! It's so true. I think we need to let them get creative on their own sometimes. It sounds like you're a great mom!

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    1. Mel, Yes! My boys have made up some pretty awesome games and entertained themselves for hours when we've given them some "boring" time. :)

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  2. Amen! You just made me feel better about my life, Angie. Thank you! :)

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    1. Oh, good! I am sure you are a great mom, Sarah!!:)

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  3. Angie,

    This is very comforting. I notice my firstborn doesn't know what to do with herself if she's alone. But my son, now he's got loads of imaginary play buddies and has a great time playing alone.

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